How do we understand who we are and how our life unfolds? Do we compare it to some normative scale that we need to adjust to? Or is there an intrinsic logic to the uniqueness of our experience? These questions have a huge bearing on how we see ourselves and also how we might…
Welcome to episode 23. I just came back from quite a long adventure, criss-crossing Ontario, Canada, visiting family and friends, singing, and also working with a lot of my clients that I still see virtually overseas. I’m back here in Stockholm, landing, getting my bearings again, and here with you. I was reflecting on…
On this week’s podcast, we delve into neurodiversity. The truth is, that as organisms, we are all different. It’s a bit like currency, there are hundreds of different currencies in the world, and it is the value that a collective group of people give to a piece of paper that gives it its worth. The…
Welcome to episode 22. Today’s kind of an exciting conversation on many levels. If you’ve been following my work and my podcast, you’ll have gleaned some of the important ideas around how difficult it is to get through some of the more defensive ways that human beings deal with the world. We are so exquisitely…
Silence is a truth-teller. It is the place where we project our unconscious associations and feelings. It is also where we come back in touch with our breath. I remember that I used to go to a yoga studio, and the teacher would ask us to breathe in a way where no one could…
Welcome to episode 21, The Power of the Breath. Today I interview a colleague who became a friend who I met at an interesting conference in Boston on trauma a number of years ago. We clicked and spoke about many aspects of the field and our lives that are important to us. Esther’s real gift…
It is easy to rail against the world. A friend and I were talking last night, and he lamented the fact that we often want the world to bend our way. So much of the vulnerability that emerges in relationships has an existential nature. The person that is closest to us is there for our…
Today, I would like to focus on some of the feedback that I’ve been getting on the podcast. In particular, people are writing and asking about a phenomenon that I see a lot in my practice. I’ve certainly gone through it in my own life. It is a situation in relationships where loneliness can creep…
There is often an eerie moment in psychotherapy where silence takes over. Sometimes I don’t even notice it because it is fleeting and the pace of discussion ramps up and covers it over with its tail. Perhaps there is a lump in my throat that I feel, but otherwise, the face and tone of…